Moving when you have a family can be one of the hardest decisions to make. Is it really a good idea to uproot your loved ones and take them away from the home you’ve all known for so long to set up camp and plant roots somewhere else? Some families choose to move to a safer neighborhood. Some choose to move for their kids, so they can get a better education. Some move for work. Whatever the reason, it can be a tough decision to make – and even once that decision is made, it is stressful! You have so many things to think about, pack, swap over, and do. It can seem like a never-ending weight on your shoulders. A slog to the finish line that always seems just out of reach. Trust this: the day will come, and it will go, and soon you will be in your new home with your loved ones. You will make new memories, and you will all live happily ever after – for the most part. No family is perfect, right?
In this guide, we’re going to talk about what you need to do to get moving home done right, and how you can make it as hassle-free, even enjoyable, as possible for the ones you love. Read on if you want to know more!
In Advance Of Your Move
In advance of your move, you need to make sure you start off on the right foot. Hopefully, you’ll know about the move months in advance so you can give everything the attention it needs and ensure nothing is missed. The first thing you’ll want to do is begin telling people. This can be the hardest part, so the sooner you do it, the better. You want to inform your closest family, extended family, friends, the school if your children will be moving, and your utility companies. It is important that you get ready so that everybody who will be emotional about the move has enough time to come to terms with it as possible.
Now, if you haven’t yet found a place you are going to be moving to, it is a good idea to get your family involved. This can ease some of the stresses and worries they have about stepping into the unknown. Check out this HDB listing and similar listings to see how they react, and make sure you explore all of your options so you choose the perfect place to settle. You’ll want to check out the following before you move:
- Schools in the area.
- The safety rating of the neighborhood.
- The neighborhood both day and night – will your neighbors be throwing parties?
- Amenities and facilities close by.
- Transport links.
- Internet service.
Make sure you tailor a list of things that are important to you and check them over to ensure you’re making the right decision.
Arranging help in advance is also important. Booking removals for the big day so you can be sure you have the right date is crucial. Do your research and read testimonials on companies that have a great track record for keeping things safe and getting them to their new destination in one piece. Don’t get sucked in by cheap prices and cowboy companies that will steal/lose/break your things. Be smart. Don’t let stress get in the way of making good decisions for your move.
You might also want to enlist the help of family and friends for your move. Remember to ask them in advance so they have plenty of time to make arrangements of their own if they need to. You might feel cheeky asking them, but they will likely be happy to help you move with as little stress as possible! If you’re not moving too far away, it might be an idea to see if a family member can watch children/pets on the day of the move, so you can focus on getting things sorted before they arrive.
Helping Your Family To Prepare
Helping your family to get ready for the move is crucial, not only physically, but mentally. Have talks and meetings with them so you can discuss their worries and fears. Kids will have fears of their own, and talking about them will help them to see that this isn’t so scary after all and that moving will be great for the family. Don’t invalidate them, even if something they say seems ridiculous to you. It can feel very real to them. Kids tend to feel stress and sadness just as much as we do, if not more so! Get kids and teenagers as involved as much as you can. Show them pictures of where you are moving to, or take them with you. Browse the website of their new school, church, etc. Get them involved in decision making, and you should all have an easier, happier time.
Remember to allow everybody to say goodbye, too. They form strong attachments when they are young, so even if they are still going to be seeing family members every so often, make sure they get time to say goodbye. Arrange proper goodbyes with their friends, too, and any parks or places they might miss after the move.
See if you can declutter and clean early on, so you don’t have to worry about this when it comes to packing. Do you really want to take every single thing you own and take it to the new place? Ask yourself if you really need something. If it isn’t useful or beautiful, then get rid of it! Get rid of all duplicates, and anything you haven’t used for a while, too. Chances are, if you have not used/worn something in 6 months or more, you won’t use it again. You could sell these things to make more money to assist your move, or you could simply give them away and feel great about it.
Packing up in advance is important if you have a lot of possessions. Many people like to do this with weeks to spare. Focus on one room at a time, gather as many boxes as you can, and label them. Write on the box exactly what’s in there and the room the box goes in so that you can grab something quickly if you need to. Having a master list that gives more details than you can put on the box and matches it with a number and room and/or color will help you track down something you didn’t know you would need before you are fully unpacked. Well labeled and coded boxes can be placed directly into the right room as soon as you arrive at your new home. Color-coding boxes to the rooms they will go in is helpful if others will be helping in your move.
Getting Through The Big Day
If you’re taking the kids with you on the day rather than getting a babysitter, make it an adventure. Pack boxes with snacks and other supplies, so that you have refreshments when you need them. Packing a box for each person containing the following is always a good idea too:
- A toothbrush.
- Shower items/toiletries.
- A comfort item, such as a book or bear.
- Tea/coffee/snacks – and disposable dishware.
- Pajamas/change of clothes (plan for 3 days more than what you think – or be prepared to launder).
Think about the things you and your family may want to grab at a moment’s notice without having to root through each box.
Settling Into Your New Home
Now, it’s time to settle into your new home! It’s a good idea to avoid simply trying to bring the vibe and feel of your old home into the new one. This is a brand new home, and it’s a good idea to mix things up a bit so it doesn’t seem like you’re trying to create a carbon copy. Mix old and new furnishings so that you still have some old home comforts. Choose new furnishings too, and rather than choosing the same lay out of your old home, consider what works best for the floor plan in the new one.
Make unpacking a priority, especially the kid’s rooms and where you sleep. Putting furniture into place should be your first port of call. Everything else can go around it later on. Put on some music while you unpack and sort things out. Music helps to make memories and can help everybody to feel at ease! Don’t feel under pressure to have things ready too quickly. You’ll likely be unpacking for a few days at least. As long as you have a place to sit, sleep, and make drinks/food, you shouldn’t worry!
Pictures, plants, and candles are great for setting the scene and making your new home feel more comfortable. Put up pictures of your friends and loved ones, add plants to bring the outdoors in (plus, science has shown they make us happier when we look at them), and add candles for a cosy feel. They can be added with minimal fuss and will make your new place feel less bare right away!
Hopefully, you’ve got a good idea of how best to handle your move after reading this guide. Don’t forget that there are a ton more free resources available for you to use online, such as moving checklists so you can ensure you don’t forget anything.
Remember; everything is temporary, all of the hassle and stress will pass, and soon enough you’ll all be settled and happy in your new home!